Brenda Brokaw
Ms. Virginia Senior America 2007
I was born Brenda J. Rhoad in Hershey, P.A., really not too many years ago! I had a wonderful childhood, frequently playing with my many cousins at my grandparents' nearby farm.
Music seems to have always been a common thread in my life. At the age of 6, I took accordion lessons, but byy age 10, I had outgrown the accordion and knew of an elderly man in my church who had a baby grand piano sitting idle. I approached him to buy it - which I did for $50.00, the sum total in my bank account! I studied piano for about 5 years.
Throughout my youth, I sang in church choirs and in a trio with my cousins, often being invited to sing in area churches. At age 17, I was asked to represent my local Youth for Christ in the East Coast vocal competition. The first solo I sang was in front of 2000 people and I placed 2nd out of 40 competitors. During my high school years, I also started and directed a children's choir at my church.
It was during my early teens I began to realize I was not from a family of great means. At age 14, I had heard of a job on a local vegetable farm, which I got, working in the fields 8 hours a day, helping with dinner and dishes, and frequently putting the children to bed, only to start all over again at 7:00 the next morning. (Wednesday nights and weekends I went home.) I was paid $15.00 a week totaling $150.00 for the summer, with which I bought school clothes. I also had learned to sew by now, and made many of my clothes throughout college, including my wedding dress. I was learning that anything worth having is worth working for.
I attended Hershey Jr. College (free since my father worked at the factory, and worked to pay my tuition at Houghton College, in upstate N.Y. (receiving a B.A. in psychology), and Alfred University (M.A. School psychology). Between under-grad and grad school, I worked as a vocal music teacher (grades 5-12) in Naples, N.Y. and loved it.
I met my husband at Houghton and had a wonderful marriage for 25 years until he died of his 4th brain tumor. At that time, I had an 8-year-old daughter, and given my faith, I knew all things happen for a reason and my life was not going to end.
During my husband's career, we lived in Massachusetts where I met an architect who encouraged me to go to design school, which I did - in Boston in the evenings. By the time my husband's company transferred him to Washington, D.C., I had worked 15 years as a school psychologist and was transitioning to design. I have owned my interior design business for 22 years and remain in this business primarily because of color.
Since my daughter is now 18 and in college, I have time for many activities apart from my business. I have studied voice seriously for 7 years and am on the stand-by list for the Washington National Opera. I occasionally perform in community theater and also sing with several groups at retirement centers as well as being involved in volunteer organizations and in my church. I love entertaining friends, collecting and selling antiques, ice dancing, traveling, and painting as a hobby. Life affords so many opportunities, I wish I had a few more (lives, that is)!
This is my philosphy of life: We have all been given many gifts, opportunities, and experiences in this life. Nothing comes to us by chance; everything is given for a reason. Don't dismiss any of these opportunities, thinking them impossible - remembering, we can do all things through Him who gives us strength. None of us ever accomplished anything by saying, "I can't.
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